The content of this Sputnik’s article is unusually philosophical. What is written in the article is probably right.
I guess that the point is “I wish I’d had the courage to live not the life others expected of me.” It means that we always live a life while reading what someone is implying, in popular words. It is the same expression as “to read the situation” which was often used a little while ago. To put it simply, it means to live a life while trying to gauge others’ feelings.
Why do most people live this way or do they have no courage to live their own life? To tell the truth, people have almost never changed since childhood.
Small children live while trying to gauge parents’ feelings. When they grow up a little more, they live while caring about how their teachers or friends behave. The root cause of this is the fact that they have never built proper parent-child relationship or friendship in their life.
To make the world better, above all, parents have to try to understand children as they are instead of bringing up children who obey them. Unless fundamentally changing our close relationship between husband and wife and that between parent and child, we will never see a decrease in the number of people who regret at the end of life.
March 24, 2017
Shanti-phula has indicated some parts of the following text in black boldface type or in red letters.
Reprinted from the Japanese version of Sputnik – March 21, 2017 –
“I wish I had not worked so hard” is what all regret the most at the end of life is
An Australian nurse who cared for the elder in the last days of their lives has recorded what they regret the most at the end of life. Almost every man confessed that they had worked too much that they did not spare much time for their wives or children.
The Guardian, a British daily newspaper, shows other regrets in life they had as follows:
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all that the nurse recorded. They felt sad to learn that they had not accomplished even a half of their dreams and wish.
“I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”
This is the most common regret of the elder men who had spent so much of their lives on their work, not on their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.
“I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peach with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
The elder often felt depressed about having no old friend around them or even finding no friends.
“I wish that I had let myself be happier.”
This is a surprisingly common one. Many people had stayed stuck in old patterns and habit. They did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice.
Most part of the above article is quoted from the Guardian ( http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying )